Relationships can be very difficult, even more so when you are making all the effort to save it on your own. If you are shouldering all the burdens of a relationship, chances are it is already over. While you should never give up on anything without fighting for it and giving it your best, you should also never stoop to a level where you are blind to the fact that you are in it alone. Have the courage and wisdom to know when something is done, null and void. Learn to listen to your inner voice and follow your instincts. Many times we know something is null but we continue to fight the issue and we end up losing so much in the end. Some may say that if something is yours and you let it go, it will come back to you. My thought is if someone decides they no longer want to be a part of your life, you should set them free and if they decide to come back later you should set yourself free by denying them the same access to your life and your space. 

We must love ourselves enough to know when something isn't good for us. Love yourself enough to let go from something that is draining you to a point where you can't even recognize that you are being taken for granted. Free yourself and free the person who you are holding on to against their will. You will only be truly happy and free when you relinquish that death hold. Free yourself today so that you can write the next chapter of your life.

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When we fall in love, we often become so involved with our new partner that we forget about us. We always try to give all our attention to our mate, making sure that all his/her needs are met. It is so easy to forget about ourselves in the process and in the end can be detrimental to us. Yes, you want to invest quality time and effort into your new relationship. No one enters into a relationship thinking it is temporary, we go in believing and hoping that it is the real deal and will last forever. While we are investing quality time in our new relationships, we must also remember to take time out to make sure that we are taking good care of ourselves. Relationships should be easy, but they can demand so much from us in the beginning that we end up forgetting ourselves.

It is important to maintain relations that we had prior to the entrance of our new partner into our lives. We must also take time away to have a girls/guys night out. Chances are, if a relationship is meant to be, taking time out with your friends will not have a negative impact on the relationship progression. Maintaining the life and friends you had before your new relationship can have a positive overall impact on your life. It gives balance and it maintains a level of happiness. Don't neglect yourself today in the name of love. Stay in the moment while you are enjoying your new found love.

Love should have a natural flow from one person to another. You should not have to highlight to others that someone loves you. It should be obvious, through the way the person looks at you, talks about you, the things he/she does for you and wanting to be around you. If you find yourself constantly trying to prove that someone loves you, think about it. True love does not need to be proved because it stands out on its own. We have to love ourselves before we can love others, we must have a full understanding of what it means to love. This understanding comes from loving yourself, being in tuned with yourself. When you love yourself, you treat yourself well by taking good care of you. You care about what you put in your body, physically, mentally and emotionally. When you are ready for love, you will seek someone who will treat you likely.

Don't rush into love for the sake of being with someone. Take your time and wait for the right person who will come into your life and treat you as you deserve to be treated. When that person comes along, you will know how to treat and love them well, because you understand what it means to be loved. Don't hurry love.

Having a quality relationship requires you to invest your time and energy. If we want a relationship that will last and stand the test of time, with great memories, we must take the time to work on every aspect of ourselves. A relationship will not survive based on its status. Each party must be present in the relationship and want the same thing for the relationship. A genuine relationship takes time to grow into something strong, each party in the relationship use the time to get to know each other and understand that there will be compromises.

A lot of times relationships fail because no one wants to compromise. Another reason for relationship failures is the fact that the parties are two different people with nothing in common and they see no mutual coming together in the future. Before branching out in a long term relationship take the time to understand your potential mate, look at the qualities to see if they line up with yours. When you decide to proceed, give it all your best.

Have a wise Wednesday.

Don't settle for just about anybody just because you want somebody. Far too often we get caught up in the moment, the glitz and glamour and end up losing sight of what is important to us. Yes, it is a thrill to be noticed and be impressed upon, but eventually all that fades. When the excitement and thrills dissipate, what are you left with? Hopefully it is something you will be satisfied about.

Be wise in your choices so that in the end you will be happy with what is left. Remember your worth and never settle for the sake of having a partner. Know that you deserve the best and the best often take time, so be patient and take the time to work on yourself. To get the best you have to work hard, so if something comes easy think twice about it.

Have a wise day!

Searching for love? How do you know you are ready? It is great to be in a place where you believe that you are ready to take the step towards having a relationship. We all know that a relationship requires a lot of hard work and a lot of time. Being ready means that you are prepared to invest the time and energy into making your relationship successful.

When you have entered into your new relationship, take the time to really know and understand your partner. Never stop having dates, no matter how far in the relationship you have gotten. Don't forget about each other, and always remember to make each other feel special. We all want our partners to give us that special attention, bringing us flowers, rubbing our shoulders or fixing us a meal. An important part of a relationship is to always take care of yourself, remember you. It is also important to keep your friendships with your friends active. Don't simply forget about them because you have a new person in your life. Maintain that balance because you need it...our lives require balance.

Live and let love!

Starting out in a new relationship? Take baby steps getting to know each other. Spend the time understanding each other, make sure you are getting what is important to you. Want to know more about your potential mate? Spend time with those who are closest to him/her. It is very important to find out the likes and dislikes of the person. You do not want to be surprised after you have invested in your partner. We are all different and we have different views on various matters. 

Be vocal about what is important to you and what you are not willing to do. Do not allow yourself to settle just because you want someone in your life, or just because you like what you see. There are many layers to all of us, make sure you are aware of the layers that make up your partner, and that he/she is aware of yours.

Have a smart day!

Love is strong...love is kind
Love is confident....yet selfless
Love is patience...yet sweet
Love is a willingness to understand
Love is gratitude.....yet refreshing
Love is a blessing filled with excellent favors
Love is encouraging....yet productive
Love is kindness and gentleness
Love is joyful....yet speechless
Love keeps giving goodness
Love is humbling
Love is not puffed up or self-serving

Love should never hurt in a manner that destroys who you are, and makes you feel less than a human. Love builds you up....motivates you to be the best that you can be. Love encourages you to grow into who you are designed to be, not someone else's definition of who you are.

Be able to differentiate between what is right and what is wrong. Open up your mind and realize that each of our lives were created to be lived with real purpose, with love, respect for yourself and others. You're an invaluable part of creation; created to smile, to be joyful, to be loved in the right way. Love that does not hurt, love that saturates your entire life...your soul...with total bliss.

Do not fall asleep on life. Treasure your time here, treasure each and every single moment. It is your life...celebrate it!

Have a realized purpose kind of day!